lists.  lists are the best thing you can do for yourself.  list, list everything.  don't live—list.  list of your favorite aunts, list of your favorite fonts, list of your favorite songs—shit, list of your favorite thongs.  make your list.  always be listing.  send your list to the friends on your list, send them to your mothers and fathers, send them to your best and worst bosses, send them to new lovers and neighbors to break the ice.  always be honest.  never be ashamed.  always be listing. show them to a waiter, the barkeep, your pastor.  list everything.